The Conversations We Have With Ourself


I was working out the other day and my challenge was to plank for 1 minute. Considering this was the first time stepping back into the realm of working out since my daughter was born, this seemed almost impossible.
As I kneeled down to the floor and positioned my mat for my hands, I had two thoughts go through my mind.
I can do this.
Who do you think you are? There’s no WAY you can do this.
In this moment I had two choices, two paths, two voices that I could hear in my mind.
This was my soul and ego talking to me.

The soul sees and hears you always. It knows your deepest of dreams and always leads with love.
The ego loves you too. It comes from a place of protection. It is edgier in how it speaks to you and will go to battle for you anytime it feels you are not safe.
Here’s the tricky part---anything unknown, is unsafe to the ego. It sees the opportunity to go to war for you and will tell you things because it can’t fathom what things COULD be.
When we talk about our money mindset, we are talking about the conversations we are having with ourselves. These conversations are based on habit, on experiences and our money history.
These conversations happen so often that they become part of YOU. You may not even realize the negative talk you are telling yourself.
If words like
I should
I can’t
I never
I can’t afford

are used, this only provides reassurance of negative mindset and it feeds us staying there. It’s a spiral and cycle that just keeps going and going and going.
How many times has your Mom said to you- you are who you hang out with? (mine—countless times)
Same goes with what you tell yourself. You are what you tell yourself. Your situation IS what you tell yourself.
Here’s so small shift you can make to start shifting those thoughts.
I should & I can’t --> I choose to…
I never --> I am focusing on (insert your goal/intention) right now.
I can’t afford--> I’m choosing my money to go to (savings, vacation, sneakers, pedicure) right now.
Taking this opportunity to retrain your brain to focus on what feels good and  what it is that you want.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.  If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” –Oprah Winfrey
Just in case you were wondering….
I focused on planking for a minute, and I planked for 1:15!

It wasn’t easy, but I did it.
This journey isn’t always easy. It starts with putting your thoughts where you feel good and making decisions along the way to have the things you want.